Archives for August, 2008
Swinger Threesome
Kelly, Bruce and I had a swingers threesome, it started off as two swinger couples swapping wives. Kelly’s man came all over me, then he held the video camera while the three of us had some more sex. Bruce was pounding Kelly’s pussy hard and fast, almost abusive. It was totally hot. I knelt down besides them and asked him to cum in my mouth. Kelly laughed and said, You are going to have to fight me for it Bitch! But she let me join them. Bruce laid on the bed and Kelly and I started sucking his cock. I climbed on top on Bruce’s face to 69 him. Kelly fed me his cock while he licked my pussy. I got so horny I had to climb on top on his cock and fuck him too. I ground my pussy back and forth on his cock while Kelly whispered dirty things into his ear. That was it, having two girls double team him made him blow his load, all over Kelly’s pretty face. Just like she asked!
Lifemate vs. Playmate
This isn’t really a question, but nonetheless something I wanted to put into this section. Often when couples start out in the lifestyle, questions arise about seperating love and sex and the role your new found friends will play in your lives, and in your own relationship with your spouse.
One of the first couples that we got to know had been in the swinging lifestyle for many years. As a new couple in the lifestyle, we had tons of questions, and thankfully they gave us much needed advice and guidance. They talked to us about the difference between a lifemate and a playmate. It’s something that has stuck with us, and something I wanted to pass along to you.
There is one thing you should never forget as you enter this lifestyle and grow with your partner. Your spouse is your lifemate, your new swinger friends are your playmates. You have decided to build and spend your life with your spouse. Your playmates are for you both to enjoy and play with. You should never try to get between your playmates, and you should never ever let your playmates get between you and your lifemate. While your playmates can become your best of friends, it’s important to never forget your lifemate comes first in every regard. Keeping your newfound friends as playmates, highlights the fun recreational activity that swinging is.
Is it ok to set up rules for swinging?
Many couples set up rules for themselves so that each partner understands what is and is not acceptable. This is an excellent idea, especially for beginning couples to safeguard against hurting someone’s feelings. Rules can be anything from no oral, to no pain, to same room sex only, rules should be created so each partner is comfortable with their play in the lifestyle. We even knew one couple that had an anal sex only rule for the female. The husband didn’t want anyone else inside of her pussy, but we was ok with others having anal sex with her. Several years later, they droped that rule.
Rules should be explained to other couples that you plan to be with, they need to know what is expected. Don’t be afraid to change your rules as you experience the lifestyle more and more. Most couples start out with a few rules, and then they change and change again.
For the longest time Bruce and I have had one main rule, that at the end of the night we have sex with each other before we go to sleep. 
I have heard that there are different types of swinging, can you explain that to me?
Great question! When we started swinging, we didn’t know that there were different “levels” available to us, we thought that sex was basically the only option, so we jumped in with both feet! Later we found out that other couples had different levels, and rules. It’s really up to you and your partners comfort levels.
Same Room No Swap Sex Only
Some couples are only comfortable with having sex with their own partner, but they will do it in a room with other swingers present.
Soft Swinging
Foreplay with other partners, sometimes including oral sex but no vaginal penetration. Can add spice to a couple’s relationship and allow them to have fun without having full intercourse with other partners. Many couples start out as soft swingers as they first explore swinging. But don’t think that soft swingers will always convert to full swapping.
Full Swap, Same Room
Partners swap and have sex in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies and is great for exhibitionists and voyeurs, who can show off or just enjoy watching their partner play. Couples in this group may enjoy watching their partner have sex as well as being watched by their partner. Some people find open swinging allows for total release of the sexual desires and fantasies. It is not for the jealous or the shy!
Full Swap, Different Rooms
Partners swap, but have sex in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows for a more intimate experience. Some people feel it allows them more freedom to explore and fewer interruptions of their enjoyment. Some couples will do this only at house parties, where they are still in the same house, but have the freedom to have sex with others in different or private rooms.
Cheating Dirt Bag
OK, I just had to throw this in here too! When someone writes to us and tells us that they are a swinger but their spouse isn’t, and they want to meet us to “swing” but we can’t let their spouse know about it, or when someone tells us that their sexual drive is to much for their spouse and that they are looking into other means to satisfy their needs. Basically if your wife or husband doesn’t know your having sex behind their back, then you and not any type of swinger, just someone who cheats on their partner, and you fall into this category! 
Swinging at any level is about trust, and honesty, it’s about openness, and being able to share your experiences, and desires with your partner.
What does it mean to be a swinger?
Here is another pretty common question, one I get a lot on my profile on social network sites. Many people think a swinger is an individual who has sex with many partners, however that is really not the case.
Being in the swinging lifestyle usually means that as a committed couple, you explore your sexuality together with each other. This can range from the two of you having sex in the same room with other people, to soft swapping, where you might do oral, but no vaginal sex, to full swap, where you can have intercourse with other partners. Most swingers only play when they are together, in the same room, and when they are swapping with other couples. Some couples allow their partners to play by themselves in other rooms, or even sometimes when they are not around, but that is usually considered something other than swinging, and might fall more into a hot wife lifestyle. Swinging couples also play with singles from time to time, however we don’t consider those singles as swingers, since they don’t have a partner to share.
Dear Anna, I would like to get my wife into swinging. Do you have any suggestions on how to persuade her?
I get this question a lot! I tell everyone to go slowly, because swinging is a big change to your relationship!
First, you must understand that this lifestyle is for solid relationships only, if you do not have a solid trusting relationship, this lifestyle is not for you. This lifestyle is not a band-aid for broken relationships, it’s an enhancement to solid honest loving relationships.
Secondly, you should not expect this to all happen overnight, especially if she seems to not be interested in other people, or is sexually shy. Bruce and I took about two years from our first conversation about swinging until we made it out to our first swing club, and we were both very interested.
When you first start to discuss swinging I would make the conversation about her. Ask her if she has ever fantasized about being with another man or having a 3some. Making the conversation about her and what she would like to explore, will remove any threat about you wanting someone else, or more than just her, showing her that you want her to be happy and that you want her to explore her sexuality. Remember that you are moving slow here, so don’t rifle a bunch of questions off at the same time. Bringing up bit-by-bit over a period of time gives her time to get used to the idea and think about it. Depending on how she receives this information you can move on to discussing your fantasies. You might try watching some porn movies together, I would suggest our movies inside our members area of course! There are also some guide to swinging videos out there. There can be a bit cheesy, but it’s a starting point!
As things move along and she is interested, you could suggest meeting a couple, or attending an swinger event, such as a club or party to talk about what its like. At this step, it should just be a meeting only, not a date to get laid. Remember that you need to discuss things as you move forward to make sure that this is something you both want to do. The less pressure on her, the better off you will both be. If you do go to a swing club, I recommend that the first time you go to an off-premise club. That means no sex takes place at the club itself, people usually dress very nicely and it’s a great place to be able to talk to others in a no pressure environment.
House parties and on-premise clubs can be very hard-core and in your face. They can be lots of fun, but if you are trying to ease your wife into the lifestyle, I would not recommend testing the waters by throwing her into a room full of naked people having sex! Lol If someone is new or nervous this can just be too overwhelming.
Most of all, when you meet other swingers, don’t be afraid to ask us questions, and tell us where your boundaries are, we were all beginners at one time, so we don’t mind being asked questions, and we all understand that when couples start out, that they don’t all play right away.
If all goes well, you can also place a personals ad on a swinger lifestyles website. A lot of couples start off stating on their profiles that they are curious only, or that they will have same room sex, but do not want to swap, or that they are soft-swap, which means no vaginal penetration. Every couple has their own rules, and it’s ok for you to start out with a set of rules then over time adjust them to your comfort levels.
Remember in all of this to let her know this is something you want to do with her, she is your life mate, and this lifestyle should never come before her. She will need to know that at every step of the way. Swinging is a couple’s activity, and if you thought picking up woman and getting laid was fun when you were single, wait until you get to do it as a team! You might be surprised about your feelings. I have seen many men work at getting their wife to swing, and once it happens the husband gets jealous. You should know that you will see men flirting with your wife, telling her she is pretty and her reacting to them as she might have done with you. Bruce always tells guys that you will hear your wife make the same noises with other guys in bed that she makes with you, or even louder than she might be with you, after all this will be exciting for her too!
I know I mentioned this before, but I can not over stress how important this is! Swinging will not work as a band-aid for your relationship!! If you are having problems, having sex with other people will not solve them. In the end, you both need to know that you have chosen each other as life partners, now you are just looking for a few extra playmates.
Swinger Wife Swap in HD
Fun group sex swinger fuck session with Kelly and Shawn in high definition video. The guys were ready to go and swap wives. After a little date of dinner and drinks, the four of us came back to our house to swap partners! Kelly and I decided to put on sexy fishnet stockings and high heels to dress up for the boys. We were having lots of fun and joking around. Quickly Kelly and I pulled off the guys pants. We were horny and ready for dick! We sucked each other’s husband’s cocks. I was watching Kelly out of the side of my eye, and she looked so good sucking Bruce’s cock that I had to lean over and help her. She came over and returned the favor, and we alternated moving back and forth double teaming their hard cocks until they could hardly take it anymore! Kelly and Bruce were talking dirty to each other about how much they wanted to fuck. It was totally turning me on! We grabbed condoms and shoved each others husbands hard waiting cocks into our pussies through the holes in the fishnet pantyhose! I rode Shawns cock like a cowgirl and he was getting off filming his dick slide in and out of my pussy. The boys decided to put the cameras on tripods and concentrate on fucking. Shawn slammed his cock hard into my pussy over and over.. I was moaning and screaming like crazy! Bruce and Kelly were laying next to us on the bed squeezed in tight. Bruce was pounding Kelly pussy hard to. She was dirty talking to him, telling him to hard her harder and cum on her face.
Shawn flipped my over doggy style and continued to fuck me, pulling my hair and everything! Kelly and Bruce gflipped over next to us. Kelly held me down and Bruce asked my if I was getting fucked good. Hell Yeah! After a few minutes, I flip onto my back again and pull my knees up to my chest. Right as I notice that our camera isn’t recording anymore, he pulls out and cums all over my belly and pussy. Good thing his camera was rolling the whole time!
How did I get started in swinging?
I get this asked a lot, so I thought I should start here!
When Bruce and I first started going out you could consider us fuck buddies more than a romantic relationship. We would basically give each other booty calls, and we had a good time hanging out with one another, there were no strings and we had a great time together. Well, one thing led to another , we continued to hit it off, and before you knew it we were dating.
One night after we had sex, we were talking about my ex boyfriends and Bruce’s ex girlfriends. All of Bruce’s ex’s had been very possessive and wouldn’t even let him go out with other guys in fear of that there would be girls out there. I on the other hand had a boyfriend who wanted to try a variation of swinging. He wanted to see me with two men at the same time. Him and one of his friends. So, one night we tried it, but when the time came, my ex boyfriend got jealous. When I told Bruce this story, his eyes got huge, Bruce honestly had no idea that couples experimented with sex this way, and pretty much though all that kind of stuff was made up for magazines, and movies. The thought of getting to be with the one you love and getting to experiment too, really turned him on, and I was glad to hear that. We continued to talk about this and who we found attractive as we walked downtown, at the mall, or wherever. Just talking about the possibility of being with someone else with your partner was a huge turn on, and love making was turned up a few notches, even though I didn’t think it could at the time!
Just a few short months later Bruce had a college buddy come out to the local bars with us. He asked me if I would want to try that 3 some again that my ex boyfriend ended up not doing. At first I wasn’t sure, I didn’t want to ruin the new fun we had talking about other hotties, and what we would do with them if we ever got the chance. However, it seemed that Bruce really wanted to try this, and I said, yes, let’s give it a go! About half way through the night he asked his buddy if he wanted to fuck me. The guy about dropped dead. At first he said “no way dude, I would never do that to you” Bruce replied, “well that’s too bad as Anna wants to fuck you, and I want to have her give me a blow job while you two fuck.” Bruce’s buddy did a 180, and the next thing I knew we were back at Bruce’s apartment having a 3some with his buddy. At that time it was the most wild and erotic thing I or Bruce had ever done. We both kinda thought that this would be a one time thing. So, Bruce set up a video camera and video taped the whole thing. Little did we know that we were not only having our first open type of an experience, but we were also having our first sex on film, that would later become a huge part of our lives.
After that we started looking around for other couples, and we had no luck. It took us almost another year before we found a couple that we could hook up and swap. They then introduced us to several other couples and we started making a lot of great friends in this lifestyle. Since then we have met some of the best people in the world, some very cool couples, and some life long friends!
Swapping Group Sex
We had a fun group sex swinger fuck session with Kelly and Shawn. We were looking forward to swapping with these two. We went out on a date, got buzzed on Margueritas and came back to our house. It was not a surprise, we all knew we were headed to the bedroom. Kelly and I decided to put on sexy fishnet stockings and high heels to dress up for the boys. When we walked into the bedroom they threw us down on the bed and we started kissing. We were having lots of fun and joking around. Quickly Kelly and I pulled off the guys pants. We were horny and ready for dick! We sucked each other’s husband’s cocks. I was watching Kelly out of the side of my eye, and she looked so good sucking Bruce’s cock that I had to lean over and help her. She came over and returned the favor, and we alternated moving back and forth double teaming their hard cocks until they could hardly take it anymore!
Corset Stockings and Pussy
Some fun photos my friend took of me dressing up one night in a pink silk corset with garters and thigh high stockings. The ribbon cinching up my corset in back fell down just right over my asshole and pussy. I wanted to give you a better view so I bent over and pulled my ass checks apart. It was working because I got my pussy licked on the bed. When I took off my corset you could see the imprint still on my skin!
